Lessons of Jamaa #5: What's Love Got to Do with It?

Hi!

Many Jammers date on AJ. I do sometimes, but hardly ever.

Sometimes Love comes between rares and friendships on AJ, and I would know.

But My question is..

WHAT'S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT?

Yes, I know cheesy that I picked this song but their are some lyrics in here that I think can relate to AJ.

First, the story.

Way back when, all the way in November 2011 when I had a few worn blankets and stuff on MisterArcticClaw, my best friend in the whole wide world was Crystal82. Together we were both very much AJ sl--- and we were the best of friends. I could talk to her about anything, everything, and more. We would both date around a lot, and talk about boys together with each other. I also had a few flags and stuff, which guys liked me better for, since I was a member. I remember after a few fights between us, we were stronger then ever. My best guy friend for a long time, iamfrosted was hanging out with me and crystal82. They started to like each other, and were very flirty. Eventually they went out, and crystal was acting kind of stuck up about this. For some reason, them together raged me. Me and crystal, same with me and frosted didn't hang out as much alone. It kind of ruined our friendships.

 Crystal was a known cheater. I hardly EVER cheated. She was married to two other guys, one of whom was allyworld who was a sweet little guy and wished so bad that I could tell him that he was being cheated on. She was cheating on three guys, awful, right? Eventually crystal started cheating on more guys, and doing nasty things (which will not be typed) with them and I barely got any time to hangout with her! (At the time I was married to cubanboy so I was happy) I NEVER got a chance to speak with her, either! Eventually I went and told all her boyfriends that they were being cheated on, and I deleted her! She got really mad, and turns out she blocked me! I regret being so harsh with her, at the time I thought it would just be a little fight, and we would be fine but it got more serious.

We didn't talk EVER for about three months.

I was on XxFreeSpiritxX, and came across iamfrosted.

He told me he still knew her, and eventually she came to his den and couldn't stand the sight of me! I offered to give her my worn, since it was her dream item, but she wouldn't accept it.

I was saddened that I lost a friend to this, because I hadn't dated anyone in a long, long time.

(I have another story that relates, but I'll save that for volume 2 ;))

Now, the lyrics.

"Oh what's love, got to do, got to do with it,

What's love, but a second hand emotion

What's love got to do, got to do with it,

Who needs a heart,

When a heart can be broken"

Now what I take away from that verse is that, Love has NOTHING to do with AJ, AJ was for learning about animals, and the only reason their is the 'Lovesick' emote is to celebrate friendship day during February. You shouldn't love someone for how much rares they have, but more for their personality. Some people I found out only dated me for rares, seeing that I would give them some >.<. Love should be kept in reality, not with strangers online. Who needs a heart, when a heart can be broken teaches me that if you just don't date on AJ, their will be less drama and save your self a heartbreak that will eventually happen.

"I been taking on a new direction,

But I have to say,

I've been thinking about my own protection,

And it scares me to feel this way"

This reminds me of how I mentally chose to not focus on dating, but rather be myself and not have to act all fancy and girly around someone. It also reminds me of how you need to think of your protection, some couples I know on AJ exchange phone numbers and video call each other and more.

"What's Love, but a sweet old fashion notion"

Yes, many people think of Love as a cute, cuddling thing that's like "Young Love" and many couples intend to be like that, but it doesn't turn out like that. It turns awkward, nasty, and sometimes hardly ever talking. Don't be in a relationship if you're gonna act single, is all I have to say.

Hope this makes sense!

~Goldfishypuppy