Toxic Relationships

Hey Everyone!
Yeah, wow, long time no see, amirite? Anyways, I'm back, well not really, I'll just post ever so often, so sorry about everything. Thanks to EVERYONE for applying for jobs, but for now I've only chosen Feelers to post, even though she might not post again, or very often. I'm sorry, their was a lot of great potential in all your applications, but just not what I'm looking for. Maybe you could make your own blog like JWT!

Anyways, I'm here to talk about something on a more serious, not-so-AJ-related post. I hope you don't mind. (I haven't been playing AJ as often, but I think I'll make a few rarity scans soon? Comment with suggestions please, I'll do the best I can!)

Okay, so, "Toxic Relationships" I think we've all heard this term at some point, but never really knew the ACTUAL definition. So, I'm here to clear that up. I think I've had a few on AJ, but they weren't severe like a few I've had in "real life". 

A toxic relationship is with your friend, your spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, parent, or anyone you know, hang around, talk to, and interact with quite often. What makes it "toxic" is that it's bad for you. The most common way is the other person in the relationship is making you feel bad about yourself, making you feel worthless, telling you mean things, and just making you feel like a piece of SH*T. (Excuse my language, but you need to get the point.) 

 

The majority of my toxic relationships were with friends. For example, they would make fun of me CONSTANTLY. Yes, I know, friends usually pick on each other in a fun, playful way. But, in a toxic relationship, it starts out in a playful way, and sometimes happens. Then, it proceeds to grow to a lot, and sometimes not even in a playful way. But, being picked on isn't the only way it starts. Sometimes it just begins as total harassment.  For example, in 'friendships' it can be the person making fun of how you look, what you do, how you do it, and so on. In actual relationships, the other person says things like "you're nothing without me" "you're worthless" "no one else besides me is gonna love you", etc. On AJ, this can happen very easily because people are more aggressive online and say things that they most likely wouldn't say in 'real life'.

Most people in toxic relationships don't know there in one until someone asks them about it, or they learn about a toxic relationship. Like me. My 'friend' was constantly sort-of bullying me, and every time she did, I would feel bad about myself, but I just thought I was too sensitive about it. Man, was I WRONG. Eventually, someone else came up to me and confronted me about it. I didn't know this person very well, they were kinda a half-friend (if you know what I mean) and asked me why I keep letting my 'friend' do this to me. I didn't really have an answer. All I said was, "cause they're my best friend" and the person said, "really? that's what a best friend is?" I thought about it for a long, long time. I eventually decided that I didn't want to be friends with this person anymore. They made me super insecure, feel like no one else likes me, and cause me to do some bad things. That's not a friend! I ended up slowly fading away from them, hanging out with them less and less, and I started reaching out to other people.

 

And my life is WAY better now! Trust me, if you're in a toxic relationship, GET OUT. It may feel like no one else is there for you, but that's only temporary. (I'm here for you, too. If you need to talk email animaljamgoldfish@aol.com) You'll realize all these other people who care about you, all these other AWESOME people who care about you and want to be your friend (or something more than friends ;D) and you'll life will be great. 

Kinda got off topic, but I just think more people should know this. Maybe you're in a toxic relationship and didn't even know it? Hopefully this helped you!

Thanks,

~ Breathless.